This is a very sensitive and delicate subject so it is with great respect for those who have passed on that I write this, as well as for those that are left behind that are trying to cope with this type of death. I deal with the paranormal on a daily basis so I have spent decades working with others on both sides of the spectrum – the living and the deceased. I see how a dark death affects all involved and the many issues that both the living and the deceased are trying to work through and get past in order to move on with their lives. It is very sad and tragic indeed as some spend the rest of their living lives trying to get out of the despair and the deceased can very well spend decades or centuries doing the same.
A dark death is when a person dies by tragic means such as a suicide or murder. Accidents are also tragic and can fall into this category as well. Even though death by illness is also very tragic, it is not usually considered a dark death but it could turn into one if certain factors are present.
A suicide is one of the most difficult deaths to deal with. It is certainly more than a tragedy as this person was consumed in the darkness so much that the only way they could imagine peace was to take their own life. The person could appear to be fine on the outside, but inside there is great turmoil and their rational thinking where their life is concerned, is quite clouded. There are so many different scenarios when it comes to the disposition and circumstances of the suicide victim. Also, how they handle situations and see outside conditions plays a big part. Their influences, past and present, are part of it as well. When it comes down to it, no one is actually responsible for another person taking their own life except the person who takes their own life. To a person who is in that state of mind, anything at all could be that one last straw that pushes them over to the other side. If that person was serious about suicide and is left untreated, it will eventually happen. Nothing else but powerful intervention will take away that feeling they have. Many times, intervention does not help either. It needs to be both a counseling and spiritual intervention; however, many times the person contemplating suicide can hide what they are truly feeling to keep others from becoming suspicious.
There is a lot of blame that goes on with suicide deaths on both sides. The suicide victim could place the blame on a bad upbringing, their spouse, money, the way they look, their bad luck, their life in general and a slew of other reasons. It is usually a combination of issues – long-term issues that they never learned to process or handle. They are not thinking the way someone else, who would not attempt suicide does. They are plagued with severe depression or a similar concern. A person who suffers from long-term negative emotional states draws to them negative energy. This negative energy will continuously gain strength and take a hold on the person suffering. If this is left untreated, the energy will attach itself to the host as it will feed off this host and become even stronger. Once it reaches a certain point, the negative energy becomes a mass, and a thought-form of the depressed energy will be born - an energetic ethereal entity that will feed off fear, anguish and depression to its already stricken host. If it is left to continue on, other malevolent energies will become very attracted to this host. They will assist on feeding the host negative things in order for them to feed off the reaction this fear and negative emotions will cause. It becomes a never-ending vicious time-bomb cycle. Some fend it off for a lifetime of complete misery and suicidal thoughts and maybe even attempts, but some just cannot endure and end it. There is always a huge negative mass around suicide victims.
Unfortunately when a person steps in to break the universal law of physical life, they do not move on to the usual afterlife until they have found their way out of the darkness. Life in itself can be very harsh but we do our best to not lose our minds and carry on every day to do the best we can do and find the little things that we enjoy to keep ourselves sane. For those who could not manage to do this while they were alive, they need to still complete this task before they are truly released to the peace they were so desperately searching for to begin with. The problem is compounded though because now in their deceased form, the task is more difficult to accomplish and their emotional state will now be even more overcome with despair. I’m sorry if that sounds very harsh but it is truth as well as the fact that I am hoping that others will see that they need to handle their issues while they are alive and that what they feel is taking the easy way out or relieving their suffering, is really just signing up for something much worse before it gets better. It is better to be brave and face life in order to move on to peace when your natural time has come to move on. The suicide victim witnesses the pain and suffering of the loved ones that are grieving for them. They see, feel and hear their suffering. This is part of their lesson for breaking this contract or law of the universal life system.
For those who chose suicide but suffered a mental illness that impaired their behavior – depending on the type of mental illness, these victims usually move on to their afterlife destination instead of moving into the realm where they stay until they work through the issues they had in order to move on.
For the loved ones of a suicide that are left behind, they suffer so much. It is usually quite a shock that their loved one was just here and left so quickly, and in such a horrific way. There is a lot of guilt and blame that starts happening – even anger and many other mixed emotions that will surface. Even though this will not help the situation and only make it worse for the person grieving, they still beat themselves up trying to wonder what they could have or should have done. The person grieving can still do something very important to help the suicide victim. While they may not be alive in the sense that they are physical, they still need as much help as they can get in order to get them out of the realm of what some refer to as purgatory but is really like a holding realm. They are still in their mindset from the life they just lived and there is a lot more pain and confusion. If they don’t block out their senses with their own grief, they will hear you and see you. It is so important that their loved ones speak to them and guide them so that they can leave and move forward into peace but it is a healing process. It could really help to get a caring psychic to assist – one that is familiar with this process. This process can take a very long time.
Another dark death is due to murder. A murder victim never wanted to die in the first place and they are taken from their life so suddenly. For this reason, many murder victims do not even realize that they are now deceased. They can go on for quite some time in this ‘dream state’ of sorts feeling like they are still alive living their life – even though it would seem to us that it would be impossible not to know that something is extremely wrong. It is just as if they are living in a dream where things seem to make sense in that dream, but it is only after you wake up you realize how things were really weird. They could even view you as a ghost. A murder victim that does not understand that they left their physical life will stay on the Earthly realm and not move forward until they ‘wake’ up. This could happen in time but that could literally take hundreds of years. It is best if they get assistance as quickly as possible after their death if you suspect they did not move on.
For those murder victims that do realize they have been taken away from their life too soon – many of them are angry or feel just as their loved ones do – that they didn’t say goodbye, that they had more to do, that they don’t want to leave. It is very tragic and sad for both the living and deceased but once again, grief counseling for both the living and the dead can be of tremendous help. Can you indeed counsel the deceased – the answer is yes. It may not be like it will for a living person and it is much more difficult to try to communicate, and then in such a way that will be effective, but it can be done. I have sent many deceased people back home to their proper afterlife. This however, can also be a timely process.
For the living person that is left behind, it can seem impossible to move forward because it is hard to get out of the darkness of negative emotions that are so strong - such as extreme anger, severe depression and anxiety as well as feelings of justice and revenge. This is all normal but it needs to be healed. Sure it takes quite some time, but to hold on to these feelings will not only continue to interrupt their life, but will surely affect the loved ones that are around them. They also have to be careful that these strong negative feelings do not attract negative energy that will form into an intelligence or thought-form. They can also actually bind their deceased loved one to the Earth plane as well – not allowing them to move forward to their heavenly place. A person wouldn’t want to hold their loved one back from moving forward, and it truly hurts them to see their living loved ones in a state where they hold on to anger and vengeful thoughts. It is understandable, but healing is of the utmost importance for the living and deceased.
Even when a loved one moves on to where they are supposed to be – they do not harbor any ill feelings towards the person who took them from their life. It is a tremendously difficult mindset to fathom as a physical being in this life, but when a person passes on and become just their soul energy once again, they see the life path and lessons set forth for everyone. There was a reason this interaction occurred even though it is impossible to wrap the mind around that. Negative emotions are viewed as a human trait but have no purpose in a non-tainted soul’s intellect. Learn to live and love your life! Let the people who love you and are still in your life see you happy – don’t make them worry about you; don’t radiate that negative energy towards them. Also, let your loved one who is no longer with you be happy - as your happiness is their happiness and your sadness hurts them.
Accident victims are also a very tragic death, but there is a borderline there in what deems them dark or not. A car accident is not considered a dark death unless the victim planned a suicide that way or they were under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Accidents such as an overdose of drugs, is also considered a dark death.
If a person causes an accident because they were under the influence of drugs or alcohol and they die, they are subject to the same penalty as a suicide. If they happen to kill other innocent people, they will not only have to deal with and heal from their own issues that caused it in the first place and the grief of their loved ones, but they will also have to deal with the grief of the people they killed and their families as well. Incidentally, a person who commits premeditated murder also receives a similar holding place where they will experience the pain and suffering of their victim as well as all of the people that loved the victim - not to mention their own family.
If a person dies of an unintentional drug overdose, it is also treated as a suicide. It may not be as harsh, as the person did not intend on taking their own life - but the darkness that is with them in the first place will still stay with them in death until they can displace it. They still must witness the pain and suffering of those that loved them and then heal from it before they can move forward. This also could take many decades or more if healing intervention does not occur.
Death is a hard enough subject in itself but a dark death is the hardest to handle. Dark death isn’t labeled that way just because of the awful circumstances that caused it, but also because there is a lot of dark energy present just waiting to be fed from the deceased and from the living. It wants to cause more darkness. Death is the paranormal and in the world of the paranormal, there is still light and dark. Neither light nor dark death doesn’t always guarantee a cleansing of negative energy. I wanted to bring awareness so that people can free themselves of the darkness. Always keep in mind that knowledge is power and gives you the ability to take control of your own life. The deceased can hear what you tell them, they can see you and they can be influenced by you. Show them your love and don’t keep yourself or your loved ones bound to darkness. Work on keeping darkness out of your life now so that your afterlife will be an easy transition.
Keep in mind that there are no set rules and regulations that govern the ways people pass on. Each and every soul is handled in regard to their circumstances. How they lived their life, how they were towards others, their mindset, what types of energies they attracted into their life, their heart, their spiritual experience – and a lot of other variables go into each single case of how the deceased will experience their afterlife and beyond. Even the experiences of previous lives will play a big part of this. There are things you can do in this lifetime to be sure your afterlife transition is the easiest. How do you know what to do? Meditate and look in your heart. All of the answers are there!
I send love, light, healing angels and blessings to all the living that lost their loved ones and to the deceased who are working to find their way.
I'm Cher, a psychic medium, paranormal investigator, extensive paranormal researcher, spiritual teacher, intuitive counselor, hypnotist of past life regression,writer, exorcist in training and founder of PsychicMyst Paranormal Network. I have over 37 years of total professional experience.